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"Leading from Within"

Leadership Programme Retreat

New Zealand's Emotional Intelligence (EQ) programme and Non-Violent Communication (NVC) for C-suite executives.

Based on the work of Dr Daniel Goleman of the Consortium for Research on Emotional Intelligence in Organisations at Rutgers University and Dr. Marshall Rosenberg of the Centre for Nonviolent Communication. 

Led by Camelia Petrus, PGDip. Psychology,

NVC, NLP, Counselling, Member of NVC Aotearoa,

Senior Consultant at Lynch & Associates Limited, Parnell, Auckland 

Every year in Pauanui, Coromandel, New Zealand

4 Days

Focused on Learning the Fundamentals of Leadership Communication

followed by other 4 Days of Practice (2 + 2)

with 4 x one-on-one sessions in between

followed by 18 months of monthly participation in practice groups for continuous support.

Pauanui, Puka Resort Park, Conference Centre

Register your interest here

What is Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

Nonviolent Communication is a communication process that "helps people to exchange the information necessary to resolve conflicts and differences peacefully".

Marshall Rosenberg says: "Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need."

Emotional Intelligence (EQ)

Emotional intelligence is as important as IQ for success, and is a skill that can be taught and cultivated.

Daniel Goleman says: "If your emotional abilities aren't in hand, if you don't have self- awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far."

Research findings

The "Leading From Within - 'True' Leadership" programme is based on solid research and informed by a large body of psychological work.

A few highlights from the research findings...

  • CEOs judged most successful by their peers in some studies were not those rated highest in technical competency but were instead those who scored highest in a different area: the ability to establish relationships with and inspire others.

  • Men and women seem, generally, not to differ in their overall level of EQ. However, research often finds women to be better at empathy and social skills and men stronger in self-confidence and self-control.
  • We make better decisions when we act on information coming not just from our rational intellect, but also from our feelings, instincts and intuition. Your emotional brain allows you to access memory and assign weight or preference to the choices you face at work and in your personal life. Your EQ guides you in accessing or controlling emotions when you must adapt to change, get along with others, or deal with stress.
  • Performance and leadership in any organisation are strongly influenced by EQ.
  • Emotionally fit leaders have greater self-awareness, connect with others more authentically, are excellent communicators and adapt their behaviour to a variety of situations and individuals. They are also hugely resilient and adept at dealing with stress, conflict and change.

Emotionally Intelligent Leaders

  • Manage well personal feelings along with the moods and emotions of others.
  • Successfully operate within the norms established for each particular role they have.
  • Easily identify minor conflicts so that more important issues can take precedence.
  • Have the ability to alter other team members' responses to their actions and actually guide interactions to meet desired goals.
  • Understand how to self-regulate emotional responses in a rational manner.
  • Understand social expectations of their actions.
  • Remain in control in situations that might prove detrimental to overall effectiveness.
  • Serve as a transformational influence over team members
  • Facilitate team member interaction dynamics, build interpersonal trust, and inspire team members to implement the articulated vision
  • Feel more secure in their ability to control and influence life events

Inspired by Jackie Mills - Creative Director at Less Mills

This programme was developed in response to a request from Dr Jackie Mills, Chief Creative Officer of Les Mills International Ltd. Jackie asked Camelia for a training programme that would enhance her ability to maintain authentic and open relationships with others and enhance her ability to inspire them.

"Hi Camelia. I would like your help in training me in this powerful communication please. I would like to learn as soon as possible if you are open. Jackie"

Learning a new way to communicate

The first step is wanting to learn which comes from curiosity and questions you ask yourself.

Secondly, learning only happens when you are ready to receive and adapt the new information.

Here we share a video, produced by Sentis, that explains the brain's capacity to learn and how it does it. 


In this interactive training programme you will explore and practice mindfulness, emotional intelligence and neuroscience for inspiring well-being, high performance and enhanced leadership at work.

This programme will give you an integrated, comprehensive progression of theory and exercises starting from the basics to advanced, for the acquiring and mastering of emotional and social skills of personal and business leadership.

Click here

for a full description of the programme

What's in it for you?

Through workshops, exercises, activities and challenging communication simulations, you will...Develop the ability to understand and manage your own emotions and those around you. This quality gives you a variety of skills, such as:

  • the ability to manage relationships

  • navigate social network
  • influence and inspire others
  • Reach a higher level of EQ, a highly important factor for personal success, starting with understanding yourself better and understanding others - their choice of words and actions.
  • Understand your effect on others and manage yourself accordingly.
  • Gain clarity and recognise gaps (if any) between your desires, your intentions and how you actually live your life. You will develop the ability to see more clearly the strategies available to you.
  • Acquire the ability to get inspired and also to inspire others. For example, the ability to inspire discretionary effort - the extent to which team members go beyond the call of duty. If an organisation has a cadre of emotionally intelligent leaders, such discretionary efforts multiply.
  • Become self-aware. This is the core of learning NVC and EQ. Learning how to 'hear' and understand your own motivations and choices is a learning block towards understanding others.
  • Learn how to 'see' the availability of choice, especially in difficult moments.
  • Know how to bring yourself to a state of heart and mind that is life-enriching, compassionate and peace-building by spotting and shifting around judgement and labels.
  • Increases resilience, reduces stress!

More benefits

The most common factor that leads to issues in the workplace is communication deficiency that creates disengagement and doubt.

A leader lacking in emotional intelligence is less able to estimate the needs, wants and expectations of those they lead. Leaders who react (rather than respond) from their emotions without filtering them create doubt amongst their employees and jeopardize their working relationships. 

The capacity to be intuitively in tune with yourself and your emotions, as well as having solid situational awareness is a powerful tool for leadership.

The act of intuitively knowing, understanding, and responding (not reacting) to emotions, overcoming challenges and stress in the moment, and being aware of your choice for words and actions as well as how your words and actions affect others, is described as emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence for leadership consists of these four attributes: self-awareness, self-management, relationship management, and effective communication.

Leadership FAQ

  • How can I make sure I say the right words at the right time, and be so good at it that I do it spontaneously?
  • How can I be in control of the conversations I have, under any circumstances, with anyone, at all times?
  • How can I get to the performance of inspiring (not influencing) people's attitudes or behaviours?
  • Shall I trust my gut feeling; you know... the hunches I'm getting? Is there any science behind this?
  • How can I resist temptation to react when I am triggered and let my wisdom take over my emotional state? How can I cultivate that wisdom?
  • How can I intuitively know how a person I just met is? Can my intuition grow, I mean, can I become more intuitive than I am?
  • How can I get to the performance of putting everyone at ease and help them feel good, reflexively.
  • How shall I deal with this potentially tense situation?
  • How do I communicate with a manipulator?
  • What are the appropriate communication strategies with sensitive people?

Who is this for?

In theory, anyone can learn this. In practice, only the curious, the open, the responsible and determined show results.

Your reward is the ability to listen and reconcile, to respond and not react, to observe and not criticise, to know what you want and to lead others towards achievements.

This training programme is for you if you want to take your leadership skills and your life to the next level, hang out with like-minded world-changers, and have the absolute best 3 weekends of your life.

Includes luxury accommodation and meals at Puka Park Resort Restaurant (breakfast, lunch and dinner).

2019 Pauanui Leadership Retreat Programme

Note: A total of eight days spread over two months are structured as follows:

  • Four days for learning the fundamentals of EI and self-awareness, followed by:

  • Two days self-management and social skills,
  • Two days relationship-management.


  • All need assessments, feedback, and evaluation take place at our office in Parnell.
  • All retreat days are held in Pauanui, Coromandel.
  • Food (three main courses), accommodation, and training materials are all included in the course fee.





One on One Meeting 

60 Parnell Rd, Parnell, Auckland


1 hour

Retreat One



4 days

One on One Meeting 

60 Parnell Rd, Parnell, Auckland


1 hou

Retreat Two



2 days

One on One Meeting

60 Parnell Rd, Parnell, Auckland


1 hour

Retreat Three



2 days

One on One Meeting

60 Parnell Rd, Parnell, Auckland


1 hour

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Action required

We expect the programme to fill quickly so you must take decisive action if you think this might be for you to avoid missing out.

Phone Camelia Petrus on 021 1036 811 or email [email protected] now with your questions and to register your interest.

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Email Camelia Petrus

Email Chris Lynch